I just wrote an April Fool’s post and saved it in my drafts instead of posting it. I wasn’t sure if the joke could actually be taken as a joke or be mistaken with the truth since it was inspired by a true story to begin with. Does that make me a coward? Perhaps, or maybe I’m just being sensitive to my surroundings…hmm.
Anyhow, moving on. I made a new friend and I’m absolutely thrilled about it. I’m not even going to try to hide my enthusiasm, seriously what’s the point in doing that anyway? If you like someone you should acknowledge it. No point trying to act cool just for the sake of it, be compassionate and expressive!
I thought being in quarantine would be isolating, while it is to a certain extent, it isn’t because I get to have these free flowing conversations where the time flies by. I’ve known this friend of mine since a while, heard about him from family numerous times, met him once at a get together but nothing beyond that.
Heard such great things about him that really wanted to connect, and it turns out, it is an absolute pleasure knowing him. He has a razor sharp wit and a sense of humor that matches mine and it all really resonates with me. I didn’t get to keep up with a lot of people after my dad arranged my marriage and Lahore kind of ran out of likeminded individuals whom you could really connect and have meaningful conversations with.
I know it sounds like I’m whining, but I feel that people over here don’t understand the dynamics of having relationships beyond their own needs. They’ve forgotten what it’s like to have pleasant conversations and just having a good time without passing judgments or making assumptions.
Marriage in our society kind of puts a halt to everything, people automatically assume that you’re out of bounds. They feel that you’re no longer the same human being even though you pretty much are. If your relationship status changes, it doesn’t change who you are inherently and it shouldn’t stop you from reaching out and putting in effort.
I had a number of social circles back in college but I’ve reduced those to three genuine friends. Your social circle reduces significantly when you want to get away from a toxic environment. Time always tells who’s there to stay and who doesn’t. The ones who stayed are my two male best buds from college and my friend Taskeen whom I’ve worked with and happens to know pretty much everything there is to know about my life.
It doesn’t matter how many people you have in your life, it matters if they’re worthy. Let’s all be thankful for the people in our lives who make it worthwhile. (Alhamdulilah)